As the weather warms, skin gets darker, hair gets wilder and clothes get smaller. We spill out of our apartments, eager to feel the warmth on our skin and mingle. ‘Tis the season for love. But before flirting with any eligible spring fling-ers or summer lovers, make like Lucille Ball and turn that love inward. “Love yourself first, and everything else will fall into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” Clearly, this babe is worth listening to. I mean, she managed to get the whole world to declare their love for Lucy!
As a personal stylist, I frequently hear women complain about their bodies, saying “I can’t wear that, my thighs are too big” or “dresses never fit my weird shape.” It breaks my heart every time, because the more something is said, the more it becomes truth. We’re always so much more critical of ourselves than others, and without drawing attention to our “flaws” they’ll often go unnoticed or even be appreciated. If we approach the world with confidence, the world will respond with respect and love. So rather than deflecting a compliment with something self deprecating, try simply saying “thank you”. Let the feeling sink in, and draw upon it the next time you’re feeling critical of yourself or others.
Whether you take time for a bubble bath, create and enjoy a lovely meal, treat yourself to something special or simply sleep - there are a million ways to celebrate yourself. Even if you’re short on time, finding a daily mantra that reminds you to be kind to yourself, and spending a few moments to breathe will work wonders. If you want something tangible to kick off your amorous vibes, check out these unique goodies, guaranteed to help you feel the love.
Modern Ritual Love Ointment $25
“Like attracts like, for more love in your life” This blend of vibrational remedies like flower essences, chicory and holly make for “heart healing and heart opening” of the purest kind.
Radical Self Love Coven Almanac, Digital $10
Author of Amazon’s #1 best seller, Radical Self Love, Gala Darling has launched a digital workbook full of inspiration and activities. Rituals, personal mantras and other useful tools for falling (and staying) in love with yourself.
A combination of adaptogenic herbs, this holistic aphrodisiac potion will ignite not only your lust, but your inner creativity as well.
A blend of essential oils work to enhance pheromones and balance energies to bring out self confidence and attract love. I mean...yes please.
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness & Start Living an Awesome Life $10
This badass book is full of useful anecdotes and motivation for recognizing your potential and value. Best read from a bubble bath.
Kali Organic Feminine Products
Standard tampons contain carcinogens. Do you really want those leaching directly into your system from your most intimate places? Kali has a bunch of beautifully designed, organic products to make that time of the month less of a stress. (Bonus: Use code natty at checkout to get $5 off!)
Sakara Probiotic Chocolates $29
We had to put in a little self love of our own here… Not only do these chocolatey bites taste like a treat, they’ll make you feel just as good afterward as they did in the moment.
‘Tis the season for love. But before flirting with any eligible spring fling-ers or summer lovers, turn that love inward. There are a million ways to celebrate yourself, check out my favorite tips and treats to help you feel the love. Written for Sakara.